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Thank you for your interest in my books and DVD.

You’ll notice a theme running through the titles. When gays marry straights, they build a time bomb that ticks toward an emotional explosion detonated by the revelation of their homosexuality. An unsuspecting straight mate is plunged into a crisis like no other—identity threatened, mind pummeled by disbelief, disorientation, fear, confusion, anger, and grief. Trust dies. Plans evaporate.
The future is murky. Life will never be the same for either spouse. In the chaos that follows a coming-out, the straight partner scrambles for understanding and balance, often with few resources.

My books, Web log and documentary DVD offer guidance. For ongoing support, you can keep up with current articles on the issues and even enter a virtual conversation with other straight spouses on my blog: www.StraightSpouseConnnection.com.

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My Husband Is Gay: A Woman’s Guide to Surviving the Crisis addresses initial challenges through very personal stories of 26 women. Since its publication in 2001, it has touched women and families on every continent and has been translated into both Thai and Spanish.

When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate’s Recovery Manual is aimed at both male and female straight spouses. The work explores the straight spouse’s dilemma more deeply, providing role models and a self-directed path to long-term emotional healing. It’s a unique, adaptable recovery manual for use by individuals, therapists, students, and support groups.

One Gay, One Straight: Complicated Marriages is a documentary DVD narrated by Ali MacGraw. It demonstrates the anguish of straight spouses and their diverse paths to recovery. The DVD is useful for individuals, counselors, therapists, and teachers. With a running time of 28:31 minutes, it is perfect for classroom or support group meetings.

Memory Quilt: A Family Narrative is my newest work, exploring an entirely different personal topic. The memoir recounts my grandparents’ crucible through the Great Depression and early 1940’s, gathering scraps of family history into a tale of endurance and simple joy.